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3 Ways To Redeem Your Day After Snapping At Your Kids

You’re with your kids and they’re being kids, maybe being a little too wild or a little loud ... but, for all practical purposes, not doing anything wrong other than just being kids.

And yet, you lose your cool.


Surely I can’t be the only mama who occasionally snaps at her children when they aren’t doing anything wrong. Maybe it’s because you’re having a bad day, you don’t feel good, or your internal temperature has been building over a day full of small, insignificant mess-ups; but, for some reason, you finally lose your cool and take it out on your kids.

This is something that mamas deal with in their day-to-day life but I would wager that it doesn’t make you feel any better after the fact knowing that other mamas are dealing with the same thing. All of a sudden, you’ve lost it and you look up to see little faces slack with astonishment, guilt, and sadness and you feel like the most rotten mama on the planet.

Like I tell my kids often, mamas make mistakes too, and the way to handle it is the same as how you tell your kids to handle their mistakes…apologize and move on doing better. But sometimes, as an adult, we’re bogged down with guilt and it’s hard for us to move ourselves past the place of blame. Today, I want to share a few ways that I’ve found as good options to redeem your day after you snap.

3 Ways To Redeem Your Day After Snapping At Your Kids - Jenn Elwell
Ask for forgiveness

As mamas we need to remind our kids that we mess up just like they do. A great way to do that is to get down on their level and make a heartfelt apology. Speak some truth in their lives by reminding them that you make mistakes and specifically ask for them to forgive you for your current one. Remind them of the truth of the situation (whether they were making a mistake or not) and talk about how  you handled it the incorrect way and how you can handle it better the next time. If you want to take it a step further, you can also pray for God’s forgiveness out loud with them so they can see an example of your relationship with God as well.

Throw a dance party

Once the forgiveness is given (and my kids aren’t quick to forgive and forget!),  you want to take some time to reset the mood in your house. I’ve found that a great way to do this is to throw an impromptu dance party. Put on some music that everyone loves to dance to (Can’t Stop The Feeling, anyone?) and get your groove on. Your kids will probably giggle at you making a fool of yourself and a little exercise will get endorphins flowing through you and your kids to help you all feel better.

Spend some time snuggling

Once you’ve gotten some of your pent-up energy out, take a few minutes to snuggle with each kiddo and remind them how much you love them. Whether it’s by telling them you’ll read each of them one book of their choosing or just a quick hug and kiss repeating your favorite love mantra, take some time to reconnect with each of them and reestablish your familial bonds. I’m of the opinion that you can never tell someone that you love them too often so take a second to remind your kids of the truth of your love.


3 Ways To Redeem Your Day After Snapping At Your Kids - Jenn Elwell

And after you’ve asked for forgiveness and reset the tone in your house, move on!

Just like God throws your sins “as far as the east is from the west,” so should you. Don’t let one mistake ruin a perfectly good day.

You’ve taken the time to think about how you can handle yourself better next time so now forgive yourself and continue with your day.


Superhero Mamapreneur

My kids are all about superheroes these days. It’s not unusual to see them sitting on the counter, find books about them spread on the floor, or open the door to find a full-scale battle going on in a bedroom. They can’t get enough of the ‘good vs. bad’ storyline. And since the superhero always wins, I think it’s a great way to expand their imagination.

Superhero Mamapreneur - Jenn Elwell


As these images have shown up constantly in my everyday life, I began to think about the traits that the superheroes are displaying.

When you read through these traits, you’ll notice that you already embody a lot of them! I identified with a majority of these qualities right off the bat – I was amazed at how little being a superhero had to do with the supernatural abilities and how much it had to do with the everyday personality traits that are within all of us.



What do superheroes have to do with us?

As mamapreneurs, not only are we ‘Super-Mamas’ day in and day out, but we can learn a lot from them about how to succeed in business. Think I’m reaching a little far? Let’s look at some common characteristics that almost every superhero embodies.

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  • They Choose a Territory to Protect or a Focus to Deal With

Each superhero has chosen an area to be responsible for…whether it’s the city they live in, fighting off a certain type of villain, or protecting a certain type of people, each hero knows their role in the universe.
Likewise, as mamapreneurs, we should narrow down the purpose of our business to one thing and then spend our time thriving in it instead of trying to master a variety of different areas.


  • They All Have an Origin Story That is Unique

You can probably name the birthplaces of a handful of superheroes right now without putting much thought into it. One thing that makes superheroes so interesting is that they each have their own story which is totally unique to them. Whether bitten by a spider, sent to our planet from their home planet, or simply decided to use their skills for the good, each hero has a story that allows others to relate, appreciate, and identify with them.

Each mamapreneur should also have her own origin story for her business and it should and will differ from anyone else’s. By embracing what makes us different, we can all find a place in the business world.


  • They Lead by Example

While the bad guys continue to emerge and resurge from the hidden underbelly of the superhero world, the superheroes are the ones setting the tone for others.

Like them, we mamapreneurs are not only setting an example for our little ones, but for our customers as well. In a small business, you are the face of your business – the way you act and present yourself in public is how customers will view your business. So we should strive to set a positive tone in not only our home, but also in our business.


  • They Don’t All Have Superhuman Abilities

There are superheroes out there who can do amazing things with supernatural abilities, but some of them are just dedicated people who are resolved to make the world a better place.

Designing stationery, planning weddings, or selling insurance might not take superhuman abilities, but by showing up day in and day out, we’re demonstrating that we have extremely strong human abilities!


  • They All Have a System That Supports Their Greatness

Whether it’s someone back at home base creating new high-tech gadgets, someone watching their back from the sky, or a sidekick helping them out while they’re fighting, most superheroes have a community of support behind them.

Just like them, we should also build a support team around our business. This can mean everyone from professionals, like CPAs and lawyers, to your assistant or designer. Having a strong team surrounding you only increases the quality of your work and helps you not get so burnt out in the day-to-day upkeep of your business.


  • They See Their Gift as a Calling to do Something Heroic

No matter what your business is, mamapreneurs are doing heroic things. By showing kindness to strangers, we are encouraging others. By being vulnerable with our peers, we are showing others that it’s ok to be authentic. By working hard, we’re letting our children know that both dads and moms can work hard and enjoy their work. Your gift is a calling to do something heroic every day … Even if the only heroic thing you can do is to show up.

Superhero Mamapreneur - Jenn Elwell

How to be more of a superhero every day??

Since I’ve now convinced you that you’re actually a superhero, I want us to think about how we can be more of a superhero every day. Think of ways that you can go above and beyond when you’re dealing with clients…0r take a few minutes to send an email praising someone on your team and their work.

You are a superhero Mamapreneur and I want you to recognize and embrace it!


P.S. Another great way to embrace your superhero-ness is by applying to be a Mamapreneur Mentor!

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11 Children’s Gifts For Your Kiddos

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Today’s edition of our gift guides is all about the kids. Whether they’re infants or older, there’s a little something for everyone here. And if you missed yesterdays, you can always check it out in the Gift Guides category.

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I Am Your Wild tee – BeMoShe – $24

This gray shirt will quickly become a go-to favorite for your children ages 2-6. Screen printed by hand on comfy American Apparel tee’s, each shirt will vary slightly making them more special. And reminding your child that it’s ok to be a little wild is probably a good reminder in this day. Whether you’re encouraging your child to get outdoors and explore or reassuring them that you don’t expect them to sit still all day every day, this shirt will be pulled from the laundry basket as soon as it’s clean each and every laundry day.

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Blue and Gray Argyle Bowtie – Perfectly Crafted By T – $8

This shop has lots of cute designs that can be made into either a bowtie or a bow. I love how easy it would be to get all of your kids matching with this shop! I’m a sucker for argyle and blue and gray is one of my favorite combo’s so choosing this design was a no brainer for me.

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MASH Pad – Toluka Paper – $15.50

When I was in middle school we spent a lot of paper writing out MASH games. I can’t even image how many we would have gone through if we had a notepad ready to fill in! The designs from Toluka Paper are old-school and I love the bright colors and retro feel. (Although I don’t love so much that my time growing up now feels like a retro time period.) This 8×8″ notepad would be a great stocking stuffer for a pre-teen and would help you show them what we did before screens were everywhere.

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Shine Bright Like The Stars Hooded Tee – Ally B Designs – $25

For the trendy kiddo, this hooded tee would be the perfect gift. It would work for boys or girls without sacrificing style for either one. And I love that it has a hoodie that you can pull up over their sweet heads if you get outside without remembering how blustery the winter wind can be. And as a bonus, $2 of every purchase is donated to a children’s charity and for November and December that charity is Make A Wish!

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Jesus Loves Print – Tales of a Peanut – $12+

Not only do I like to surround my house with beautiful prints to remind me of Biblical truths but I like to include them in my children’s rooms as well. That’s why I love this print so much. It personalizes a very popular children’s story to remind them how personal Jesus’ love is for them. And it can be customized to match any decor which makes it pretty much perfect.

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Grunge Fairy Tale Shirts – Strawberry Mommycakes – $22.50

If your kids are a little old for the Shine Bright tee then these Grunge Fairy Tale Shirts might be the perfect fit. With designs that are a little rough around the edges, these shirts will make your child smile. And in sizes 2-12 and on super soft American Apparel shirts, these will be come their favorites in no time. PS Erin also has onesies in this line as well if your kiddo isn’t quite to the t-shirt stage.
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Flutter Plate – miniPeanuts – $25

My kids love these durable plates and we celebrate special occasions with one designed just for them. As they set the table each night they love hearing the story behind each plate. This Flutter design is one of my favorites due to its vibrant colors and gorgeous watercolor patterns. And since these plates are dishwasher, microwave, and even oven safe and are non-toxic they are the perfect plate to let kids eat off of.

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Preppy Paddle Out – Pink Peppermint Paper – $1.99

It might be early to be thinking of summer camps, but these postcards would make great stocking stuffers for your older kids. Especially if you’re gifting them with a trip to camp this summer for Christmas! The postcards limit the space your child will be required to write (which they’ll appreciate) and you’ll appreciate receiving mail while they’re away.

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Win or Lose I Love You – Lysa TerKeurst – $9.20

Lysa TerKeurst is a very popular writer in the women’s market but many might not know that she also writes fantastic children’s books. And her latest one, Win or Lose I Love You, will be perfect for my kids this Christmas. It’s message on how to handle winning and losing as well as reassurance that your love isn’t changed by the outcome will be a relief for kids to stick away in their minds for the future. Lisa’s books are beautifully illustrated and I love that they help bring about conversations with your kids in an organic way that doesn’t feel forced and that they can relate to.

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Robots Placemat – miniPeanuts – $17

Laminated placemats have become my saving grace for the kitchen table. It’s infinitely easier to scrape dried milk or pasta sauce off of a placemat in the sink than it is to scrape it from the grooves of the table. Not that I would know anything about that, of course. With a large size (12×18″), a thick lamination (10 mil), the ability to personalize the designs, AND the choice of two different designs for the front and back, you’ll be glad that you got these for your kids.

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The Snuggle Is Real – Lionheart Prints – $22

Many of you probably know Lionheart Prints for their irreverent prints and Yeaux Leaux collection, but Liz also has this adorable onesie that will encourage you to treasure those baby snuggles while you can. And with a screen printed onesie on a soft Rabbit Skins’ blue onesie this would be perfect for baby’s of any gender or a fun Christmas gift for the newly expectant Mama.

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There you have it. My favorite gifts for the kiddos in your life. I think that any of these items would make an excellent gift for kids of all ages. Think I missed something? See something you love? I’d love to know about! Let me know in the comments or join in the conversation on Instagram! And you can support all of these makers by buying in their shops or by sharing this post and their products on social media. Please use the buttons below to share on any (or all!) of your favorite social media channels!


Use Your Words

Connection is important to me and one of the ways that I think we can connect better with others is by being honest and open and using our words. Today I’m sharing some thoughts on this with the Thrive Moms community. Head on over to their site to check out the post and join my newsletter if you want to connect more with Mom’s who are striving to connect more with God, with their families, and with each other. The first newsletter is going out on Monday, June 1st and I promise, you don’t want to miss it!

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Friday Peanuts

Friday Peanuts

Well, I managed to finally get Hadley’s four month post and James’ three year post up last night. Other than that I’ve still been a scarce blogger. I’m not sure why other than that most days I feel like I’m running around like a chicken with my head cut off. I’ll quit saying that I’m going to blog more next week but I am getting close to post 1500 so maybe I’ll do a giveaway then. Any suggestions on what to give??

On to random thoughts.

– I mentioned in Hadley’s post that I’ve given up on cloth diapers for the moment. It’s true. They kept leaking, spraying out newborn dirty diapers is no fun, and they were so bulky on her. I was using bumGenius Freetime’s (all in one’s, one size). I got discouraged and over the extra laundry and decided to wait until we were changing less diapers and I had time to try out a few other kinds. In good news, the cloth wipes are still going strong!

Do Not Sass Talk Your Mother – possibly one of the best parenting discipline ideas for teens that I’ve ever heard. Someone please remind me of this in a few years!

– IF:Pray was this week and even though I didn’t get to participate in real time, I greatly benefited from the tweets going out. If you want to join in a movement that is determined to start a revival in our church then join this one. It’s full of Christ-centered women encouraging and empowering others.

– I love this mother/son shot. Hoping to recreate it with my boy at our next session with the fabulous Erin Cobb!

– I’ve been listening to The Afters’ Life Is Beautiful album recently and can’t get enough of it. If you want upbeat music with a positive message this is a great band.

– I just finished Hello From the Gillespies and absolutely loved it. It was a very interesting read with lots of twists and turns. And with the Christmas card season coming a book set up by a Christmas card letter disaster is perfect to get me ready!

– Speaking of Christmas, I’ve been shopping for a while now but need some ideas for James now that his birthday is over. He’s got tons of trains although he’d probably love a few more. Other than books I don’t have a lot of ideas for him. Any great 3 year old present ideas?

– One thing that I’m thinking about for Christmas is the new preschool themed Koala Crate from Kiwi Crate. Charlotte has always loved hers and these might be fun for Charlotte. If you’ve got older kids they have also started Doodle Crate and Tinker Crate for those 9+. They look awesome!

– And as for my Christmas list? I’m thinking that Smoothie’s would be a good thing to start with the kids for snacks and want a Smoothie cookbook. If you have one that you love please let me know!

Have a great weekend!

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How to Cloth Diaper Your Newborn

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So I’m about six weeks in to cloth diapering for the first time and Hadley is approaching 9 pounds.  I feel like that this point we’re moving out of the newborn stage (especially in diapers) and so now would be a good time to let you know how it’s gone for us so far.

Our Motivation

To give you a little background, other than my cloth diaper review back in the winter, we have never attempted them.  When I think of how much money we’ve spent over the last five years on diapers…well, I don’t want to do that math for fear of hyperventilating.  Since I’m always looking for ways to cut back on our grocery budget, I decided to cloth diaper with Hadley to save money.  Plus, I’ve heard lots of other great things about it including the ease, that it reduces or eliminates diaper rashes, and how cute a baby’s bottom looks all swaddled in cloth.

Research Beforehand

Being the OCD, type A engineer that I am I spent a good amount of time researching cloth diapering.  I created a Pinterest board on cloth diapering and started polling friends who were cloth diapering.  I put out calls on Facebook and Twitter for advice and got lots of it.  Some of my favorite posts that I found were on the Cotton Babies blog, Kitchen Stewardship’s review of 25 diapers, and Kitchen Stewardship’s Cloth Diapering Rookie post.

What We Have

After all my research I decided two purchase just a few newborn diapers and more one-size diapers.  I decided to start out with a small “stash” of all-in-one’s (just like a disposable diaper in style) and see how it went before purchasing more.  So I purchased:

2 Lil Joey’s 

6 BumGenius Freetime Newborn

14 BumGenius Freetime One-size (4 with snaps, 10 with velcro)

Grovia Magic Stick All Natural Diaper Ointment

Diapering Method

Over the last 6 weeks we’ve tried to use cloth diapers during the day and disposables at night.  The last thing that we want to have to worry with in the middle of the night is rinsing poop out of a cloth diaper.  Hadley also had thrush which caused a bad diaper rash so we used disposables until we got that cleared up because you can’t use traditional diaper rash creams with cloth diapers because they will stain and hamper absorbency.

Because of Hadley’s ongoing diaper rash and sensitive bottom, we go through a lot of diapers — typically 10-16 a day (changing during/after feeding and right before putting her down for a nap).  This meant that I definitely didn’t have enough newborn cloth diapers to even exclusively diaper in cloth during the day much less the night too.  Because I didn’t want to purchase more newborn sized diapers and the one size BumGenius were still way too large, we just supplemented with disposable.  In my opinion, it’s important to be flexible, especially in this stage and not worry too much about having to go exclusively cloth all at once.

To do everything we could to mitigate the diaper rash we ordered the Grovia Magic Stick and started using it during all diaper changes.  Because it is all natural and without ingredients like petroleum which most other diaper rash creams have you can use it with cloth diapers with no harm.  We found that it worked great and helped clear everything up even if it did take a few days of using it for it to clear.

Washing Our Cloth Diapers

Everything online says that you can throw exclusively breastfed babies diapers straight in the wash without rinsing.  However, that seems to me like it’s a lot of poop going into your washer which makes me a little uncomfortable.  I’m sure it’s fine but, since we have a big sink in our laundry room that’s right next to our room where we’re doing all of our diaper changes, we’re rinsing our diapers out and then sitting them next to the sink before we wash them.  This is just our personal preference and I don’t think is required.

I wash a load of diapers about every other day and then hang them to dry.  I have a front load, high efficiency washer and wash them on a normal cycle in hot water with a cold rinse and an extra rinse.  I use Charlie’s Soap on advice from a friend and really like it (as a bonus is has a really cool dispensing mechanism that is very easy and makes no mess).

During Hadley’s battle with thrush, Cotton Babies posted a post on their blog about How to Sanitize Your Cloth Diapers.  This post mentioned that if your child has had a rash or infection that you need to sanitize your diapers before putting them on your child again.  I was glad that they posted this at this convenient time for us because Hadley was just getting better and I didn’t want to prolong our experience because the diapers were giving the thrush back to her.  So I washed them with 1/4 cup of liquid bleach dispensed from the liquid bleach dispenser in my washer.  I felt good about putting the diapers back on her and also was amazed at how the bleach didn’t harm the outer colors of the diapers but eliminated any lingering stains on the interior of them.  The post also says to not use bleach more than once a month so make sure not to overuse if you’re going to sanitize your diapers.


In an effort to save more money and eliminate any chemicals that might make a sensitive baby’s bottom get a rash, I made my own wipes a few weeks into our experience.  I cut up a bunch of old t-shirts for wipes. And I purchased a glass canister similar to the middle size of this set.

I used the cloth diaper recipe from The New Lighter Life.  I typically stuff the jar about a third of the way full and then pour some solution over the wipes and continue with the other two thirds of the wipes.  Sometimes I even mix the wipes up with my hands when pouring in the solution to make sure they all get damp.  For our big jar I use more like 1 1/2 cup of water with  1 tablespoon of baby wash and 1 tablespoon of coconut oil.  This tends to get them all wet enough but doesn’t leave the ones at the bottom of the jar sopping wet.

Our jar is pretty large and, depending on how many really dirty diapers we have during a day, I need to remake wipes every two to three days.  It only takes about 5 minutes to make a jar of wipes so it’s not time consuming.  I have enough cut wipes to be able to wash an entire jarful with diapers and have them ready to go into the jar when the jar is empty.

Because we rinse our diapers we use a wet bag like this to hold our wipes between washes.  And then when I wash diapers (or sometimes other laundry) I just dump them into the wash and throw the bag in also.

We have found that you want to make sure not to cut the wipes too small as the t-shirt pieces curl up in the wash and are a little hard to unfurl if the pieces are too small.  Something around a 5×5″ wipe is a good size.  Any bigger wipes you feel like you’re wasting space in the jar and any smaller they are hard to work with.

Where We Are Now

At this point, growing towards 9 pounds and 6 weeks old we’ve quit using the Lil Joey diapers.  Even though they say online that they’re good for 4-12 pounds, we started getting leaks out the sides much smaller than that.  I love the look of them but I wouldn’t purchase them again unless you have a preemie or super small baby.

The BumGenius newborns still fit well and we are using the BumGenius one-size diapers as well even if they look huge when Hadley has them on (that’s what she’s wearing in the picture).  They both seem to fit well and, for the most part, contain all the messes.  We’ve had a few instances where the diapers have leaked but we’ve had them with disposables too, that’s just part of it.  The one-size diapers are all snapped down into the smaller size on the front to make them a little smaller.

I’ve found that the snap diapers are much harder to put on than the velcro ones.  I probably won’t purchase any more snaps but I wanted to try them because, as she gets older, they will be harder for little fingers to open themselves if we end up with that problem.

I bought all of my BumGenius diapers from Cotton Babies and am looking in to trading in my newborn diapers there when the time comes.  It won’t recoup all of the expense but will help offset the cost of additional one-size cloth diapers.  The Lil Joey diapers I purchased from Amazon since Cotton Babies doesn’t sell them.  I also purchased my wet bags, Magic Stick, and Charlie’s Soap from Amazon due to price and non-availability at Cotton Babies.

Overall, I’m really happy with the way that the cloth diapering process is going for us so far.  I don’t ever see us being exclusive cloth diaper-ers — think the church nursery or grandparents houses — but I like the savings that we’re reaping by not having to buy as many disposables.  The initial cost output to start cloth diapering is scary but, in the long run, we should be much better off this way.  I also feel better knowing that I’m putting natural fibers with no chemicals or additives on her bottom the majority of the time.

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